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    • MARCHETTE RICHARDSON-SMITH COVERS THE 2024 GATSBY SHOWCASE FASHION SHOW 12/20/2024
    • JEANANNE ROBERTS HAPPY HOLIDAY 12/17/24
    • JODY DAVIS, GATSBY SHOWCASE FASHION SHOW 12/9/2024
    • DR. MARCHETTE RICHARDSON-SMITH COVERS THE 2024 WE MODEL USA COMPETITION FOR COPA STYLE MAGAZINE 12/8/24
    • KYMBERLY KNIGHTON 2024
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    • JOANIE HELGESEN, MATURE MODEL 11/14/24
    • MICHELLE WISEMAN
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    • KAPTURED BY KASPER
    • JANET CERSLEY MRS./MS. TOURISM 9/12/2024
    • CAROLYN PHILLIPS, MATURE MODEL 9/15/24
    • REEMA KAPANI MOVIE PREMIER 8/2024
    • TEACHER'S FEST, LISA SUBRIZE 8/15/2024
    • JEANANNE ROBERTS SPEAKS ABOUT THE MEMOIRS OF HER NEW PUBLICATION
    • MICHAEL REZEK 8/14/24
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    • TIA COLLINS EXECUTIVE PRODUCER/DIRECTOR
    • NIDHI MANHJAN KHANEJA 7/18/24
    • REEMA KAPANI COPA STYLE MAGAZINE 2024 "WOMAN OF THE YEAR"
    • CAROLYN PHILLIPS MAGNIFICENT MATURE MODEL 7/15/2024
    • THRIFT SHOPPING WITH DR. MARCHETTE RICHARDSON-SMITH 7/9/2024
    • CINTIA HULLEN & HER WORLD OF FASHION & STYLE 7/8/2024
    • SUMMER SHOPPING: DR. MARCHETTE RICHARDSON-SMITH 6/22/24
    • DJ REX (DWAYNE BLYTHE) 7/12/2024
    • ATHENA GARCIA: MURAL ARTIST
    • MICHELLE YARNELL 7/12/2024
    • SUSTAINABLE FASHION DR. MARCHETTE RICHARDSON SMITH 6/10/24
    • GABBY HAAS: MODEL
    • ANGELIAS COUTURE
    • DAPPER LUQ
    • CINTIA HULLEN 6/4/2024
    • GAYELA BYNUM & JOHN SAYLOR COPA STYLE MAGAZINE 2024 "COUPLE OF THE YEAR"
    • DR. MARCHETTE RICHARDSON-SMITH REPORTS ON THE NATIONAL CHERRY BLOSSOM FESTIVAL 5/12/24
    • TRACY LANGFORD (360 VINTAGE)
    • DAPPER LUQ (DESIGNER)
    • "CORAGEOUS VETERANS" CARMEN DELGADO REPORTS ON THE AMERICAN VETERANS BALL
    • DR. MOBI 5/13/24
    • OZZY RAMOS, FOUNDER OF THE VETERANS BALL
    • EVELYN TALATALA CLOUGH
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    • CINTIA HUTTEN & HER WORLD OF FASHION 4/30/2024
    • NADIA NEUBERT
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    • A Front Row Experience: The Michael Lombard Experience at New York Fashion Week 2024
    • A Night of Elegance and Entertainment: Prashant Goyal's Fashion Extravaganza
    • MIKELL REED CARROLL 3/6/2024
    • WILLIAM GRAYSON JR. BUSINESS COACH 3/8/24
    • JEMMELYN HEWLITT
    • TAMMY FAYE: NYFW 4/13/2024
    • ELISA NGUYEN NYFW 2/24/24
    • DR. MARCHETTE RICHARDSON-SMITH REPORTS ON RANDHAWA BRANDS NYFW SHOW 2024
    • LISA SUBRIZE: HE WHO CHOOSETH 2/14/24
    • SONIA GARBARINO
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    • CRISTINA CORPUZ 1/22/24
    • MISTY L. COOLIDGE 1/5/24
    • LISA SUBRIZE INTERVIEWS ROGER GORE 12/22/23
    • LA SHONDRA BROWN-NELSON 1/10/24
    • CHRYSTAL HUES 12/20/23
    • CHRIS HUNTER (MALE MODEL) 12/18/23
    • LISA SUBRIZE ATTENDS GEMS & FASHION CHARITY GALA 2/7/23
    • LISA SUBRIZE REPORTS: "SHINING BRIGHT, NIGHT OF GLAMOUR & RECOGNITION"
    • LISA SUBRIZE: EPIC BEAUTY, DAY OF HOPE 1/8/24
    • LIZETH ALVARADO PREPARES TO ATTEND THE 2023 GATSBY SHOWCASE FOUNDATION FASHION SHOW FUNDRAISER AT THE KENNEDY CENTER
    • MARIANNE HANEY (SENIOR MODEL) 12/2/23
    • LISA SUBRIZE REPORTS ON DC FASHION WEEK SEPT. 29TH-OCT 1 2023
    • PARICHAT "KATIE"' GRALEY
    • GAYLA BYNUM GEMS FASHION CHARITY GALA
    • RUBY BENITEZ 9/15/2023
    • RON WEST: COPA STYLE MAGAZINE 2023 "MAN OF THE YEAR
    • TU-ANH LOVE
    • DR. MARCHETTE RICHARDSON-SMITH PREPARES FOR MS. PETITE USA 8/5/23
    • CERISE ELAINE TURNER REPORTS ON WEMODEL USA 2023 FROM MGM, NATIONAL HARBOR
    • SCARLET ALEXANDRA TEEN MODEL 8/1/23
    • BARBARA SMITH MAC NEIL (hiTechMODA) NYFW 6/29/23
    • AMARIS SHIPMAN 6/20/23
    • "THE GIZ" REVIEW BY CRYSTAL GOODWIN 5/5/23
    • DEVENEY SHEA 7/6/23
    • DR. MARCHETTE RICHARDSON "EARTH APPRECIATION MONTH 4/16/23
    • DR. MARCHETTE LOCKETTE - SMITH 3/30/23
    • AUTHENTIC BEAUTIES 4/6/2023
    • DEBRA OVALL 2023 ACTRESS OF THE YEAR
    • KRISTINA CHRISTOPHER "MY FIRST NEW YORK FASHION WEEK 2023
    • KRISTINA CHRISTOPHER HI TECH MODA NYFW 2023 PART 1
    • KRISTANA CHRISTOPHER RUNWAY 7 NYFW 2023
    • JEANANNE ROBERTS NYFW WINTER 2023
    • DR.MARCHETTE LOCKETTE-SMITH AT NYFW 2023
    • MALCOLM STAPLES NYFW 2023
    • AMNA INAM FOUNDER OF RANDHAWA BRANDS NYFW
    • DEBRA OVALL
    • DR. MARCHETTE LOCKETTE-SMITH REVISITING NYFW 2/6/23
    • HERITAGE FASHIONS
    • TROY ANTHONY BY KRISTINA CHRISTOPHER
    • GRACE LEMON BY KRISTINA CHRISTOPHER 1/16/23
    • LIZETH ALVARADO GATSBY SHOWCASE 2022
    • JEANANNE ROBERTS GATSBY 2022
    • CHIC NOUVELLE MODEL MANAGEMENT
    • KRISTINA CHRISTOPHER 12/23/22
    • LEZLIE DAY REPORTS ON THE GATSBY SHOWCASE FASHION SHOW
    • JEANANNE ROBERTS REPORTS ON THE GATSBY SHOWCASE 2022
    • GAYLA BYNUM DAVID YURMAN FASHION SHOW PART 2
    • DR. MARCHETTE LOCKETTE-SMITH INTERVIEW 12/18/22
    • DR. MARCHETTE LOCKETTE - SMITH "WIGS"
    • CULTURA FASHION SHOW 11/21/22
    • JENNIFER WAKFIELD USOA PAGENT 10/25/22
    • LIZETH ALVARADO EPIC BEAUTY Rx
    • MARTINA MYERS 10/27/22 WORLD TOP MODEL 2022
    • SOBEIDY VIDAL LATIN FASHION WEEK 10/11/22
    • DMV FASHION WEEK 2022
    • CARLA DIAZ DELEON 10/12/22
    • KALENA EVERETT
    • LAVISH CROWN PRODUCTS (CHINA WILSON)
    • ANDRES AQUINO (DESIGNER)
    • Jana Love Sedlokova & Lamont Easter HOSTS OF WE MODEL USA 5/16/22
    • PATRICIA WATTS & PHOENIX WEMODEL USA
    • ARETHA BAILEY (REE REE THE MODEL)
    • YANA ZIOLKOWSKI
    • JEANANNE ROBERTS (INTERVIEW) 4/28/22
    • CRYSTAL NICOLE
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    • SIMON BECHARA 4/1/22
    • CARLA DIAZ DELEON
    • YOLANDA STENNETT MRS. INTERNATIONAL
    • MARQUISHA FITZGERALD
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    • CINTIA HULLEN 1/20/22
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    • CINTIA HULLEN MODEL CORRESPONDENT
    • TATIANA COLE PART 1
    • MYLANTA SIMPSON
    • JUDITH BARNES
    • CYNTHIA JOHNSON MODEL 9/25/21
    • WILLIAM CALLWOOD
    • CARLTON HART 8/15/21
    • BLAQUE BARBIE BOUTIQUE
    • JACQUELINE MIMS
    • CHEYANNE JENNAE 8/22/21
    • MYRNA (HAZELEYES) PITTS 6/4/21
    • SHOE FANATIC by SHEILA
    • CYNTHIA JACKSON
    • ANYA BY VIVIEN BRIDAL 2021
    • SHENETTA MALKIA 5/15/21
    • YELENA'S MAKEUP COLUMN: "A CINDERELLA STORY" 4/10/21
    • VASHTI GRAY BURGESS 4/23/21
    • MOZELLA PLACE 4/21/21
    • YELENA SCHEIDLER
    • LASHANDA THURSTON (SHANDA GRAND) 4/21/21
    • SAMRINA LEM LEM
    • ULYCIA GREGORY
    • ROWENA KAY (MODEL MANAGEMENT)
    • SABRINA SEOUL "YING YANG LEATHER SWING COAT" 2/8/21
    • INGRID CAMPBELL WHITE 3/19/15
    • SARA BEE
    • BRINETTE (ALCHEMY CLOTHING
    • LUPITA ANEZ "2020 MODEL OF THE YEAR" 11/17/20
    • NISHA SHETH MUMBAI BOUTIQUE
    • NAKIA HARDY
    • TATIANA COLE DESIGNS
    • SABRINA SEOUL "STYLE" COLUMN 12/7/20
    • HEAVEN HIGHTOWER
    • DEBRA STORY
    • CONSTANCE BELL
    • SABRINA SEOUL (Part 3)
    • SABRINA SEOUL (Part 2)
    • SELAMAWIT YIRGA
    • CYNTHIA PRESS "Le Billet D'or"
    • LISA BUSH 7/10/2020
    • SABRINA SEOUL (Part 1)
    • HOPEZ
    • MRS. SABRINA KAS FLANAGAN
    • MALCOLM STAPLES 5/29/20
    • DELTA VIRTUAL FASHION SHOW
    • NICOLE DANIELLE 8/12/20
    • LIZ NGUYEN'S INTERVIEW WITH COPA STYLE MAGAZINE
    • TONYA BROUGHTON 3/6/20
    • ANYA BY VIVIEN 4/14/20
    • CARLA FELIX-CLAURE
    • DANIELE COOKE
    • MIKELL REED CARROLL AT MILAN FASHION WEEK 3/6/20
    • SYDNEY WEBB TEEN MODEL
    • ALYSSHA SHANKS 3/8/20
    • LORD & TAYLOR (DC) HOST DELTA SIGMA THETA INC. FASHION SHOW/FUNDRAISER
    • RONALD BYRD DCFW 2020
    • BEHIND THE SCENES AT NYFW WITH HiTech MODA
    • TORI SOUDAN FOOTWEAR
    • MICHELLE WISEMAN
    • COPA STYLE MAGAZINE SALUTES GAYELA BYNUM AT LORD & TAYLOR
    • SHEKIRA RAMDASS
    • ZJAY KAYCI
    • MAYA CLARK
    • SABRINA YOUNG
    • PARIS FASHION WEEK 2020
    • LIZ NGUYEN
    • MELVIN LEE WALKER
    • HAITI ESTELLHOMME
    • RONALD BYRD DCFW
    • LISA BUSH DCFW 10/9/19
    • STEPHANIE WHITE NYFW/THE POWER OF FASHION
    • RENEE ALLEN HOSTS THE "POWER OF FASHION" SHOW
    • EAN WILLIAMS: THE UNTOLD STORY
    • DUR DOUX
    • TREMAINE POLLYDORE
    • DUR DOUX PART 2
    • BUSINESS OF FASHION
    • CALI TYLER
    • SAROSH TAKES FOCUS ON FASHION AT THE TOWER
    • KYMBERLY KNIGHTON
    • CLYOPATRA COUTURE
    • DELL SCOTT
    • IFEOMA ONYIA DMV FASHION WEEK
    • JANELLE JOHNSON 6/30/19
    • RICHARD SENKBILE
    • LENZI BAZAAR (PHOTOGRAPHER) TAKES FOCUS ON COPA STYLE MAGAZINE'S 8TH ANNIVERSARY FASHION SHOW AT LORD & TAYLOR
  • EVENTS
    • DR MARCHETTE RICHARDSON-SMITH "CHERRY BLOSSOMS 4/30/2024
    • GAYELA BYNUM: DAVID YURMAN FASHION SHOW TO BENEFIT WWSC
    • JENNIFER WAKFIELD "SINGLES IN THE CITY"
    • DR. SOY RICHARDS "TEACHER FESTIVAL"
    • DMV FASHION WEEK 2022
    • TICKET FOR COPA STYLE MAGAZINE BLACK TIE AWARDS AT UNION STATION
    • SYLVIA TRAMORE MORRISON PORTRAYS JACKIE MOMS MABLEY
    • FELICIA'S FUND, VIVIEN ANYADUBA AGBAKOBA - FOUNDER
    • FOXTRAPPE REUNION 2019
    • KAREN MARIA ALSTON COVERS THE DAVID CHAPPELL PRIVATE AFTER PARTY
    • DC SWIM WEEK 2019
    • GEORGETOWN FASHION SHOW 2019
  • CUISINE
    • DR MARCHETTE RESTAURANT REVIEW 2/28/23
    • JESSE SEWARD CHEF EXTRAORDINAIRE
    • LOUBNA ENNADIR "Thermomix"
    • UTOKIA LANGLEY
    • GRACE COLLINS INTERVIEWS PACO CARRASCO
    • SWAHILI VILLAGE
    • JENISE'S KITCHEN AND WWSC CELEBRATION OF LIFE EVENT 2019
  • CULTURE
    • TU-ANH LOVE 8/9/23
    • DR. ANGELA KALENDAR 8/3/23
    • MEAHSHA MAKLE SHADY ARPERTURE
    • DEALING WITH MENTAL HEALTH by MARCHETTE RICHARDSON SMITH 5/28/23
    • DJ BECKY GASTON DJ (PYNK DYMOND)
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    • BARRY MORGENSTEIN 10/20/22
    • CHRISTIE BYNUM (WE WILL SURVIVE CANCER)
    • GIGI RILEY 7/26/22
    • MICHELLE VAN HAAS FITNESS TRAINER
    • ERIKA TEMPRO DETOX MESSAGE
    • CONVERSATIONS WITH MINGO 5/9/22
    • New Page
    • BELINDA QUEEN DISRICT 6 CANDIDATE PART 1
    • DERRICK CONYERS (SU'COY (PART 2)
    • THE COPA STORY
    • DANILA RODRIGUES FITNESS MODEL 1/4/22
    • KEN ROCHON, WWSC FUNDRAISER AT LAMBORGHINI
    • WALTER KIRKLAND 1/7/22
    • KEVIN WILLIAMS, 2020 "ENTREPRENEUR OF THE YEAR"
    • ASK TIA! (TIA COLLINS ADVICE COLUMN) 12/16/21
    • LAVISH CROWN
    • JAS BOOTHE 11/16/2021
    • DERRICK CONYERS (SU'COY)
    • GWEN HURT
    • SIA M. FINOH 9/29/21
    • SUSAN SMALLWOOD CELEBRITY POLO & JAZZ 7/19/21
    • GILDA SYMEONIDES
    • ARIANA VARGAS (BLACK BARBIE)
    • CHINA WILSON ATTORNEY AT LAW
    • JULIANNA YATES
    • ALLISON SUTHERLAND
    • KAROLA CAVAGNA Scout & Cellar Wines
    • TIA COLLINS ("The Real Modes of DC"
    • RASHAD MUHAMMAD
    • KNOIR
    • HOW MUCH DOES THAT DOG REALLY COST IN THE WINDOW?
    • THE REAL SOUTH AFRICA PART 2
    • ELIZABETH FELLOWS
    • THE REAL SOUTH AFRICA
  • PEOPLE
    • WILLIAM GRAYSON JR., BUSINESS COACH
    • LAURA DORSEY
    • CARMEN JURADO 1/8/24
    • LACY LACE: ACTRESS 1/27/24
    • ROOTS ACADEMY
    • SARAH FELIX, VIRTUAL ASSISTANCE
    • JOSE ALBERTO UCLES & TOM NOLL ( THE ARTSY PEACOCKS)
    • JULIA CHANG, HEALTH & FITNESS 1/17/2024
    • DR. JAI JAI "PART ONE" 11/17/23
    • GEORGE JUICE GRAHAM
    • MATTHEW BROWN REALTOR
    • LISA SUBRIZE, LEADING WITH LISA
    • WALTER KIRKLAND REPORTS ON THE WASHINGTON COMMANDERS 8/9/2023
    • FARNAZ HASHEMPOUR-HECKERT
    • MARCELLA MOLLON-WILLIAMS
    • DOC MOBI 8/5/23
    • CERISE TURNER MS. SENIOR DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA 2023
    • KAREN JOHNSON GILLIAM 7/11/23
    • CONNIE AMOS-PARSONS 8/14/2023
    • REBECCA FREMONT 3/9/23
    • RON WEST 1/17/2023
    • LEZLIE DAY COVERS WORLD TOP MODEL 2022
    • JENNIFER WAKEFIELD PAGEANTS - AN INSIDE LOOK 11/22/22
    • DARRYL SIMS, PUBLISHER
    • NATAKI SUGGS
    • BARRY MORGENSTEIN 2
    • SISTERS 4 SISTERS 20TH ANNIVERSARY 12/12/22
    • DR. NIECY FUQUA 9/1/22
    • CYNDI-LOU CARSON, MODEL >
      • LIZETH ALVARADO COPA STYLE MAGAZINE "MEET & GREET HOST
    • SUSAN SMALLWOOD 8/31/22
    • CECE ASHE ENTREPRENEUR
    • MUBASHER FAZAL (DR. MOBI)
    • DR. MARCHETTE LOCKETTE-SMITH
    • REARDON D. SULLIVAN FOR MONTGOMERY COUNTY EXECUTIVE
    • DR. RENEE ALLEN 10/5/22
    • CANDACE JOHNSON (MY DIAMONDS SHINE)
    • ALICIA PRYOR, DNA FINANCIAL
    • ANITA HOPE (DANCE INSTRUCTOR)
    • PAMELA R. BROWNE
    • ARETHA BAILEY
    • DR. ESSIE MCKOY 1/2/22
    • JENNIFER WAKEFIELD
    • CHRISTIE BYNUM WSSC
    • FLORENCE KING
    • REV. DR. D. AMINA B. BUTTS
    • WALA BLEGAY (DISTRICT 6 CANDIDATE)
    • ARIANA VARGAS TEEN MODEL 12/24/21
    • DR. BO BEST
    • JEMMALYN HEWLETT POOLSIDE COOKIN/WECARE
    • CHERYL SHIVER 9/18/21
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    • ALLISON SUTHERLAND 8/3/21
    • DR. JAI 8/21/21
    • LORI CONWAY RAY
    • ANGELEE L. ALSTON
    • DR. SARAH RENEE LANGLEY
    • TRAE MCLEAN
    • LAURA DORSEY
    • THE HUNGERFORDS, 2021 COUPLE OF THE YEAR
    • SYLVIA TRAMORE MORRISON PORTRAYS JACKIE 'MOMS" MABLEY 6/10/21
    • SUSAN YOUNG 4/10/21
    • KYMBERLY KNIGHTON TAX PROFESSIONAL
    • ALEXANDRA LEVINE 5/8/21
    • ALYSON WILLIAMS
    • JANETTE OBENSON-AROGUNDADE
    • PANDEE CHI
    • ALESHA BROWN
    • SHARON JACKSON BULLOCK "Embracing My Sexy Sixties"
    • SABRINA WOOTEN
    • New Page
    • DANA HICKS-HUNGERFORD 10/26/20
    • TAYLOR MADE
    • DIANA L. BROWN 10/19/20
    • FRONT ROW PHYLLIS
    • CHRISTINA BRICE
    • GAYELA BYNUM 7/8/20
    • JOAN ACHONG
    • MAYA CLARK "Indubitable Fitness" 8/10/20
    • SUSAN SMALLWOOD 7/24/20
    • DR. AVIS DEVEEVER >
      • SHELLY ROY
    • MIKELL 5/12/2020
    • THE SPECTRUM CIRCLE 5 YEAR ANNIVERSARY
    • ERANA & JAMES TYLER 2020 "COUPLE OF THE YEAR"
    • THE EUBANKS SIBLINGS
    • TAYSHA SHAW-DAVIS 5/30/20
    • CHELLY ROY
    • KATHI MUHAMMAD
    • JOHN WARDELL PHOTOGRAPHER
    • YOLANDA NELSON INTERVIEWS CHRIS THOMAS OF "RAP CITY"
    • TRACY LOVE 4/17/20
    • MICHELLE GREER 1/31/20
    • GWEN HURT SHOECRAZY WINE COMPANY
    • CHERYL SHIVER
    • CONNIE AMOS-PARSONS
    • DR. JOANNE CAREY VETERINARIAN
    • MIKELL REED CARROLL
    • SABRINA YOUNG
    • MAYA ROCKEYMOORE CUMMINGS
    • ANNA DEBOSE-HANKINS
    • GAIL KING 10/23/19 "All Roads Lead to Gratitude"
    • MARRIAGE CAN WIN
    • DR. RONNIE SIDDIQUE
    • JOAN ACHONG
    • SHARON PARKER
    • GAIL MARGARET KING
    • LEONARD DESHIELD
    • JANELLE JOHNSON 9/12/19
    • SETORIA
    • CARLA HOLMES COVER STORY
    • GIGI RILEY FOR MAYOR OF SEAT PLEASANT
    • EMMANUEL O. IRONO
    • SOFIA PELLEGRINO
    • KIMBERLY HICKMAN-BEY
    • MARGARET P. BEAN
  • JAZETTE
  • SOPHIA DAVIS
  • TIM BRADLEY
  • ALICE DOLL PART 2
  • THE REAL SOUTH AFRICA PART 2
  • GAYELA BYNUM AND WWSC'S 10TH ANNIVERSARY
  • ALICE DOLL'S BEAUTY SHOW PART 1
  • SPECTRUM CIRCLE 2019
  • KATRINA RAINEY
  • J. DE LOS SANTOS
  • KAS FLANAGAN
  • SALOME AUTOLINO
  • NIKEA MARIE
  • DEBRA CHANDLER
  • LINKS LUNCHEON
  • WIPS UNSCRIPTED CHRONICLES
  • GRETA CHAPIN MCGILL 2/4/19
  • ERENA CHEBES
  • RICHARD FLEMMING
  • KEVIN GRANT
  • JAZETTE LANE-ENGLISH
  • HAZEL MITCHELL-BELL
  • CHEF MIA
  • LISA BUSH
  • GEORGE DINES
  • MARNIE IRENE JOPP 1/8/19
  • DR. RENEE ALLEN 2/10/19
  • SYLVIA TRAYMORE MORRISON 2/1//19
  • JIMMY LEE COMEDIAN
  • LAKESSHIA SLAUGHTER
  • MARK & KRYSTAL
  • DR. SHARON HARGRO PORTER
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Pamela Reaves sheds a brighter light on 'the truth' in the AUGUST edition of Copa Style Magazine.
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Pam Reaves

"The Whole Truth"

By Pamela Reaves


 

The truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth so help me God.  But do we really want the whole truth when it comes to those with whom we are married, engaged, or in love?  When their indiscretions come to light with indisputable evidence, can we accept the truth, and if not, why are some people able to make certain decisions about the relationship and take corrective action, while others reject the facts?

A commitment to a loving relationship involves personal, emotional, and physical investment, which means that you hand over or entrust a part (and in some unfortunate cases -- everything) of us to someone else.  To hand over or entrust “you” to another person brings about vulnerability.  What the other person does with the part of you that you’ve hand over to them will have impact on your life.  No matter how giving, trusting, or the claim of not expecting anything in return, people enter into relationships with certain expectations of a return on their investment.  Expectations may vary, but all of us expect something pleasurable and fulfilling from our intimate relationships.

With time, people come to know something about their spouses, partners, lovers, or other people with whom they are intimate.  Although we can never know every single thing about someone else, we do develop a certain level of familiarity with their personality, character, attributes, and flaws.  Humans are not infallible and so the reality is that we learn to accept, if not at least acknowledge, who people are.  To believe that those for whom you profess love are perfect is fantasy, and most of us know this.  So in our quest to be realistic, we learn to accept certain flaws inherent to being human.

In this day of overwhelming access to information through a number of media and technological platforms, it isn’t uncommon to receive the dark details of the dark secrets of people.  With empathy, we place ourselves in the shoes of family members, imagining their horror, humiliation, and emotional trauma.  With bated breath, the court of public opinion anxiously awaits their responses to the scandals.   Notwithstanding curiosity, many have a pre-conceived notion of what the response will or should be.  Now when a ton of evidence is thrown into the mix, we believe there is no way in hell those who are closest to the culprit will support him or her.  But people are who they are, and although we speculate, we can never know what their responses are going to be in these types of situations.  Then when we finally hear from them, more sizzle is added to the scandal because in some cases, their statements (in the opinion of others), are unbelievably naive or down right delusional – especially when they acknowledge part of the offense (e.g. he/she did have an affair), but charge blame to others (e.g. It was the other person’s fault).  We’re left to wonder, how in the world can one part of the story be acknowledged, while others portions of the whole story are rejected?

Here is the real deal.  When faced with the devastating explosion of scandal, there is a need to self-protect; a reason to go on; an unwillingness to admit that you don’t know them as well as you thought you did; or the unwillingness to make a move that will adversely affect lifestyle or financial status.  So then self-preservation is activated in the form of accepting part of the truth, but not the whole.  Accepting part of the truth is the feeble attempt to address the undisputable facts; the indefensible.  But then justification is needed, and justification is supported by blaming others (they seduced the man/woman whom I love in a moment of weakness); devising extenuating circumstances (excuses for their bad behavior); and worst of all self-blaming (if I had not done X, they wouldn’t have done Y; I couldn’t please them; I didn’t give them what they needed).  These strategies may be unattractive or unacceptable, but it is the reality.

Those who have been drug into the scandal of their intimate partners are not stupid, unattractive, undesirable, or as delusional as some may think.  Know this -- there is a part of them that is aware of their loved interest’s distractions, desires, or down and dirty proclivities.  They may not know the details, but they know something is or has been amiss.  I’ve been there – done that.

One of the interesting things about relationships is that good or bad, they become a part of us.  Once the attachment is formed and the investment is made, it’s not always easy to disconnect.  It’s easier for some, but believe me, there is at least a pause to determine what to do next.  There is that part that doesn’t want to believe a mate could do anything to violate the intimate relationship.   Even if the offender was good at covering his/her tracks initially, when it all comes out, retrospect turns on the light of understanding.

Public outrage and unsolicited advice is not going to change the minds of those affected by the mistakes of their intimate partners.  Some of them will dig their heels in deeper, and not always because they’re stubborn, but are desperately trying to hold on to something that supports their love, investment, and relationship with this person.  The people we love are a reflection of us in some way, shape, or form.  So to admit that you’ve invested your heart, soul, and life into an errant person forces you to evaluate who you are?

When overwhelmed with this type of burden, clarity isn’t always front and center to remind us that each of us are responsible for who we are, the decisions we make, and the action we take notwithstanding external influence.  Even if we love someone and invest in a lifetime with them, we are not to be held responsible for their behavior.  Sometimes the reflection is merely what we wanted to see in them, although the reality is that they may not have the qualities we convince ourselves they own.  The attraction may have been that they held something you thought you lacked, and maybe you did at one time.  For example, I realize that my attraction to older men when I was younger was because I was seeking wisdom, and I believed they had it.  I’m much wiser now and don’t need to look for that particular trait in another person. 

Then people change.  What may have been true in the past, or at the onset of the relationship can change with circumstance, position in life, or change of heart (it does happen).  The ability or inability to accept change greatly influences how we handle the inevitable change when it comes.  If nothing ever changes, then there is no growth and someone(s) is frozen in time.  Change for the better requires accepting the whole truth.  A lie never stands and at some point, we are faced with the lie without the crutches of extenuating circumstances, indefensible excuses, or delusion.

Accepting part of the truth, but not the whole does not fix the problem.  It allows the problem to continue, fester, and compound.  When we accept part of the truth, but make excuses for the offender or blame others for the mess they decided to become engaged in, that’s call “rewarding bad behavior”.  Whenever bad behavior is rewarded, it is bound to repeat itself because there is the underlying belief that once forgiven, always forgiven.  Rewarding bad behavior is excusing the hurt that was inflicted, when it neither called for nor deserved. 

Dealing with the whole truth is the only way to begin and complete the healing process.  The whole truth allows for the right decisions to be made based on all of the information – not a portion thereof.  The whole truth is liberating, freeing us from every thread of lie that eventually unravels.  The whole truth will allow us to move past the mistakes, indiscretion, or hurt if both parties accept the whole truth, and are willing to proceed on the basis of the whole truth.  Truth is an exact science.  Anyway you add, subtract, multiply, or divide it, you come up with the right answer.  Embrace the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.