By Rodney Wayne Branche
Copa: Dana, do you think that many women feel that they need to be spoiled and treated like queens?
Dana: A good women deserves to be treated like a queen.
Copa: Should the male partner also be reciprocated in the same way and why?
Dana: Yes, of course he should! Your man should feel like he is truly your “KING!” Especially if he is treating you like a queen. I don’t think that great treatment should be limited to just birthdays and holidays. We love surprises and trust me, so do our men. Men are just so manly! They are taught to show their strength at all times. They are natural providers and contrary to popular belief, there are some good men out here. Men love the extra attention from time to time. Just like we want to feel appreciated and loved, men want the same in return.
Copa: Why is it that many women feel that it's all about them and never look at it from a mutual relationship perspective?
Dana: I can only speak for myself. I “never” look at a relationship as being all about just me. I need my mate and he needs me. If I’m happy he is happy and vice versa. I look at a lot of different aspects in my life as having teammates. Even in my relationship to a certain extent. We give each other what we need. If I fall he has me and if he falls I have him. If both of us are on top, we are winning! It’s no me, me, me, it’s “us.” It is a mutual sense of togetherness and respect.
Copa: What would be your suggestion to remedy the warped expectations of “spoilage?”
Dana: Think about how good it feels to be spoiled and implement those exact same feelings towards your man. Just remember that it’s no perfect man. One thing for sure is that “good” men deserve to be treated as such!
Copa: In your opinion do you think that there would be positive or negative results in a more mutual treatment of being “spoiled?”
Dana: Positive! It seems pretty cut and dry, in my eyes. If you have a good man, (lol) if you have a half good man, cherish him. No one is perfect, not me, you, or anyone else reading this. Men like to feel like they are our babies at times. Most of them won’t admit that though. I don’t care how bad, educated, or sexy you think you are, if you don’t spoil your man someone else will!
Copa: Do you think this a cultural problem or this affects most women in the world?
Dana: I don’t think it’s a cultural problem & don’t think it affects most women of the world. I think some women are just self-centered & some feel entitled. Then, you have women that have become accustomed to being dogged out by men most of their lives. When a good man comes along they can’t hold on to him from judging him from her past. Last, but not least, you have your woman that gets a good man and does “everything” in her power to treat him like a “king.” When you are good to a good man, his mission in life will be to keep you happy. A smart man realizes that if his woman is happy he will have a happy life!
Copa: Should this issue be discussed at the beginning of a relationship or do you feel that this attitude of spoiling women are just used to arcane expectations of how men should treat them?
Dana: A good woman should be spoiled. Again, both men and women need to play their positions with spoiling each other. It’s a win, win situation when two hearts “truly” become one.
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